Helping
dads grow up! - CFN newsletter 73
CHRISTIAN FAMILY NETWORK NEWSLETTER 73
> Advice: the story behind Positive Parenting's Time
Out for Dads
> News:
> Adoption law changes: children to suffer?
> Money talks, Dads!
> Captain Alan Price set to move on
> Sites:
> World Cup outreach sites
> Bristol church goes for big screen event
> Events: what's coming up near you
> Marriage MOT: The trouble with you is ...
> Humour: School teacher's wisdom
> Members' Zone latest
Will it be glory or shame, joy or despair?
No, I'm not talking about the spiritual and emotional consequences of good parenting - although there's plenty about that in this week's update - but rather the outcome of England's World Cup campaign!
By the time our next newsletter hits your inbox, the team's key matches will be partly played, and we'll probably know if we're going home early or heading for the latter stages of the competition.
In the meantime, we've focused in on some good sites keeping you up to date with outreach among the fans in South Korea and Japan, plus plenty more to get you surfing.
There's our second instalment from J John's Marriage Works chapter on conflict, more help for playgroups handling faith festivals, news, humour, events and much more.
God bless
Russ Bravo
Christian Family Network
info@cfnetwork.co.uk
http://www.cfnetwork.co.uk
ADVICE
Helping
dads grow up!
- Too many dads are failing to show good leadership, says a national parenting charity - as David Blunkett makes parents responsible for their children's bad behaviour.
Positive Parenting believes childhood delinquency will continue to rise until dads are given help to become positive role models for their family. The charity is launching a project called Time Out for Dads! and setting up a network of support groups for fathers across the UK.
The aim is to help dads - like Stephen Pestell (read his story in full on our website) - take stock of their relationship with their children, identify weaknesses and make positive changes.
"Dads don't know how to be role models any more because we don't have role models ourselves," says project leader Andy Jones. "First we were John Wayne, then the Nineties New Man making pasta - but now what?
"Instead of taking matters into our own hands as adults, we react emotionally to our children, dragging up hurts and hang-ups from our own childhood. Or we disengage totally. Either way, it has a serious effect on our children's emotional security.
"We at Positive Parenting want to help dads raise well-rounded adults, not eternal children."
In a speech on reform to the criminal justice system recently, the Home Secretary said parents will face fines if their children are suspected of drifting into crime. Home Office research shows that it is in the formative years - between eight and 13 - that it is possible to steer a child away from bad behaviour.
Andy
talks further about his own experiences as a dad, and shares Stephen
Pestell's own story, in
the rest of this article, in our Advice section at http://www.cfnetwork.co.uk/members/advice.asp
> THIS WEEK'S NEWS
>
Adoption
law changes: children to suffer?
As the Adoption and Children Bill received its final reading in the
House of Commons on Monday, the Lawyers’ Christian Fellowship
(LCF) London said the moves to allow unmarried and same-sex couples
the opportunity to adopt would not provide security and stability
for children in care.
Go to http://www.cfnetwork.co.uk/members/news.asp for the full story
> Money talks, Dads!
Researchers quizzing 500 members of the public in Bath on behalf of Christian Viewpoint for Men found the subject most interviewees wish their fathers had talked to them about was 'money'.
Go to http://www.cfnetwork.co.uk/members/news.asp for the full story
>
Captain
Alan Price set to move on
The team behind Captain’s Crew at New Wine is to disband at the
end of July with the news that Teknon Trust, which supports
Captain Alan Price, is to be wound up by its trustees.
Go to http://www.cfnetwork.co.uk/members/news.asp for the full story
A
CFN MEMBER WRITES ...
Dear Friends
I am interested in working with families (in what ever shape they
come in!).
I have a vision of setting up a resource base for families - a place
where families are respected and supported. It may have a "wacky
warehouse" type play area for children, and a "time out"
Christian environment for parents and children.
I see it as a place where prayer, counselling, parenting classes,
debt management,local resources and so on are available, a valuable
meeting place where bridge-building can be done, and families can
be told just how special and valuable they are to God.
Do you "catch the vision"?
I would like to know whether there is such a place on Mersyside, and
if there are like-minded people I could get in touch with.
I look forward to hearing from you - thank you for your time!
Gwen Cooke, Pseubeo@aol.com
> DON'T MISS
On 13 July 2002 thousands of Christians from all generations, denominations and races, are expected to gather at Reading's Madejski football stadium for a day of prayer, fasting, repentance and worship, to see the hearts of this nation turned back to God.
Much more information on this gathering, its background, how to get involved, and details of the Christian leaders supporting TheCall England can be found at http://thecallengland.com
>
MARRIAGE MOT
Continuing our partnership with marriage resource site 2-in-2-1.co.uk,
here's their regular marriage tip from Kate:
The
trouble with you is …
There's a bit in the Bible about taking the log out of your own eye
before trying to take the speck out of another's eye. "The trouble
with you is …"
How often the log and speck are made of the same wood. It's a curious
fact that we always find it easier to spot a particular fault in others
when it's one of ours, too.
Putting others right helps us to avoid facing up to our own shortcomings.
Next time you feel the urge to criticise your spouse, why not stop
and ask yourself a few questions first:
* Do I do the same thing myself?
* What attitude or behaviour have I got at present that's damaging
our relationship?
* Is there anything in me I need to change?
>
Check out our archived marriage tips in the Members
Zone, plus stacks more marriage resources at http://www.2-in-2-1.co.uk
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> EVENTS
New: Delirious? tour, Waltham Abbey Festival Week, Passion Play outdoors
in Fife. Check out our Events guide in the Members' Zone at http://www.cfnetwork.co.uk/members/resources.asp
Send your family/church event to info@cfnetwork.co.uk
for a free listing.
> SITES WORTH SEEING
From the makers of the excellent THE GOAL site: evangelistic World
Cup pages are underway at http://www.gothegoal.com
For World Cup outreach in Japan/Korea go to
http://www.worldcupoutreach.com
And Bristol church Ebenezer is working on World Cup pages within their
own site: http://www.ebe.org.uk/worldcup
and also opening the church up for match screenings, though not, as
wrongly suggested in this secular report - praying for an England
victory! http://www.bbc.co.uk/bristol/content/news/2002/05/07/news1/church.shtml
> YOU'VE GOT TO LAUGH
A wise schoolteacher sends this note to all parents on the first day of school: "If you promise not to believe everything your child says happens at school, I'll promise not to believe everything he says happens at home."
A police recruit was asked during the exam: "What would you do if you had to arrest your own mother?" He said: "Call for backup."
A very
dirty little boy came in from playing in the garden and asked his
mother: "Who am I?" Ready to play the game she said, "I don't know!
Who are you?" "Wow!" cried the child. "Mrs Johnson was right! She
said I was so dirty, my own mother wouldn't recognize me!"
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CHRISTIAN FAMILY NETWORK THIS WEEK
(MEMBERS' ZONE) - http://www.cfnetwork.co.uk/members/default.asp
> Advice: The story behind Positive Parenting's Time
Out for Dads
> J John on handling conflict in marriage - Part 2
> Fun: Wisdom from jigsaws
>
Resources:
> More help in handling faith festivals in church playgroups
> What makes a good husband (part 2) - looking at Proverbs 31
>
Like to make contact with a Christian family in the Ukraine?
> Reviews:
>
Youth congregations and the emerging Church: Graham Cray
> Bright Angel: Carol Hedges
> Is God Past His Sell-By Date?: John Blanchard
> Where Was God on September 11?: John Blanchard
>
Top sites this week:
>
World Cup sites
> Christian analysis of the new Star Wars film - Attack of the
Clones
> Tools to sort out the Klez worm virus
> Events: More of what's on near you, plus the guide to
2002's festivals and bible weeks
> Webwatch Index: more than 450 sites at your fingertips
> Site Search Engine: the easy way to trawl our 450-page
plus archives
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